For us, transformation came along with the yellow chairs. It was this way. The Christmas decorations had been taken down, and the living room was looking dull. No way to begin the New Year, which we felt should be lived in a space that was more closely aligned with what we hoped for from our year – freshness, lightness, spaciousness, vibrancy – and a certain amount of edgy style. In short, we were in the mood for transformation.
The trouble was we didn’t know exactly what we wanted. We tried putting a new plant here, placing a cushion there, painting a picture frame in a fresh white. None of these small improvements really worked. “Perhaps some of this…” we suggested, “or maybe less of that”, but really, we were at a loss to know how to achieve the change we desired.
Then into our lives burst the yellow chairs – along with their partners, the yellow footstool and the gaudy and highly decorated yellow-framed mirror. They leapt out at us from the pages of Gumtree when we were looking for something else entirely. “We’re gorgeous!”, they cried. “We’re very affordable – and we live only five minutes away”. By the end of the day, they were ours.
And what a difference they have made! Our plants and cushions and freshly painted picture frames all of a sudden look connected. Everything flows and looks more beautiful. The vibrancy of the chairs lifts everything around them and ties it all together in one glorious setting that is all that we had hoped for and more. The bright, happy colour lifts our spirits whenever we see it. There is a new positivity at our place.
Now, the point of sharing all this is not to exult over our chairs (well, that’s not the only reason). It’s really to observe that sometimes transformation can happen suddenly and easily. Often we think it has to be hard work and take a long time – and of course, sometimes that is the case. But other times it can be easy and joyful.
What can help make it so? Here’s a couple of suggestions.
1/ Be ready.
My brother Peter sent me this quote:
“In order to see the sunrise, one must first be facing east”.
For transformation to happen, we need to orient ourselves. We need to be wanting it, looking for it – even if we don’t know exactly what ‘it’ is, or what form it will take. We need the hunger, the longing, for something more.
2/. Lighten Up
I read an article by a guy called James Buraz. He said
“When we are not attached to who we think we are, life can move through us, playing us like an instrument.
Understanding how everything is in constant transformation, we release our futile attempts to control circumstances.
When we live in this easy connection with life, we live in joy”.
Often we resist transformation because we are holding on too tightly – to old stories and beliefs. old ways of reacting . Often these are not actually true, they have just become our habitual way of looking at things. When we let go of them, we find we can easily take on a new way of being.
Which leads on to number three…
Meredith Grey says
So, do it. Decide.
Is this the life you want to live?
Is this the person you want to love?
Is this the best you can be?
Can you be stronger?
Kinder? More Compassionate?
Are you saying “it’s not that easy”? Perhaps it isn’t, but then again, perhaps it just might be…
Have a transformational New Year